10这里的点乃是,我们若是没有神圣生命的人,无论我们多么彼此相爱,在婚姻生活中仍会面临难处。……无论夫妻多么相像,他们之间的脾气、个性、习惯、背景和领会仍会有所不同。丈夫会有他看事情的方式,妻子也会有她的。同样,妻子会有她的习惯和个性,丈夫也会有他的。所以,因着脾气、个性、习惯、背景和领会的方式这五个搅扰的因素,他们会有难处。即使夫妻彼此非常相爱,又都是文雅、受过教育的人,情况也是如此。至少有时候他们会发觉情况无法忍受,并会彼此争吵。倘若岳母或婆婆这时候来访,她会发觉情况全然不愉快、不可蒙悦纳。她甚至不愿看见这样不甜美的情况。
10The point here is that if we are those without the divine life, we will face problems in our married life, no matter how much we may love one another… No matter how much alike a husband and a wife may be, there will be differences between them regarding temper, disposition, habit, background, and understanding. The husband will have his way of viewing things, and the wife will have hers. Likewise, the wife will have her habits and disposition, and the husband will have his. Therefore, they will have difficulties with the five troubling factors of temper, disposition, habit, background, and way of understanding. This will be the situation even if the husband and wife love each other very much and are refined, educated people. Sometimes at least they will find the situation intolerable and will quarrel with one another. If a mother-in-law is visiting at such a time, she will find the situation altogether unpleasant and unacceptable. She would not even want to observe such an ungracious situation.